The Dark Deep Shaft of
Past and Future Pain
The old vamps clever ploy is to turn you negative by getting you to
dwell on your fear of the future or emotional pain of the past. This
sends you spinning down a dark deep shaft.
He's a clever little tyke,
because getting you to remember and dwell on old hurt renews and
strengthens your brain's synaptic pathways to those painful memories -
keeping your old emotional wounds open and festering.
Getting you to focus on a
future fear will fill you with anxiety and drain your energy. Over time
you'll become highly sensitive emotionally, physically and mentally,
which can lead to relationship and social interaction problems.
Tools to Ward off
So you've learned that the worry vampire's main weapon is to get you to
worry and dwell on past or future pain. But fortunately there's a gap
between the past and future - do you see it???... that's right - it's
the present moment.
Do you know why this very
moment is called the present?... because it's a gift! The present
moment is your sanctuary from the worry vampire. He simply can't reach
you in the 'here and now'.
So, learning to move more and
more into the moment of now, keeping your mind focused on the present
(the gift), you'll soon be able to give that old vamp the slip.
Sarah - the Reluctant
When Sarah first contacted me, she was so possessed by her worry
vampire that it wouldn't let her speak a word to me - not a sausage.
Sarah was drowning in the fears her vamp was creating. She was even
suspicious when I threw her the 'present moment' lifeline. She said…
moment! - How can I be in the present moment, I have too much to worry
about! It's reckless just to think of what's happening now. What about
tomorrow? Next week? Next year???!!!"
Of course it was old worry guts
moaning, not Sarah. But the penny eventually dropped and Sarah had a
deep realisation. She realised that the past is just memory and the
future is only our projected imagination - right now, the
future is just a thought!
Sarah realised that
moment-to-moment awareness is not reckless abandonment of yesterday or
tomorrow, but a tool that can bring clarity and awareness to the
decisions we make in each moment. These decisions can either hurt us or
The present moment is where
life is happening. It's where our personal power lies and the only
place we can effect change to create a brighter future. It's also the
only place the worry vampire can't bother us.
Lock and Load that
You'll never guess what your most powerful weapon against old worry
guts is. In fact, you won't believe me when I tell you, but it's
guaranteed to shoot that deadbeat in the butt. What is it???... Your
No, I'm not saying you've got
bad breath - I'm saying that by simply bringing your attention to your
breathing will blast that little tyke right out of your head. You don't
believe me do you? Here's how it works...
Your breathing is always
happening in the here and now - this very moment. Go on, feel your
breath as it comes in and out - easy to focus on right? Well, because
your breathing is always happening in the present moment, you can use
it as an anchor - to keep your mind in the here
So, simply put - if you're aware of your breath, your mind's attention
is in the present moment - not in the past, not in the future - but
here, right now. And that's your silver bullet!
The Vamp Bazooka - Your
Silver Bullet Upgrade ;-)
If you just can't shake the pesky blighter - blast him to dust with the
Vamp Bazooka! What's the Vamp Bazooka?... It's your poor short-term
memory - huh? Let me explain...
You know how you can only do one thing at a time? - You go to the
kitchen for some juice, but notice the cat's bowl is empty. So you feed
the cat, but can't remember why you went to the kitchen in the first
place - duh!
So, how can poor short-term
memory be a weapon against old misery guts?... The very fact that you
can only concentrate on one thing at a time causes everything else in
your immediate active memory to get erased. So here's how to use that
to your advantage...
When you've got a persistently
sticky vamp, relax your stomach and focus on the gentle rising and
falling motion of your abdomen. In your mind also repeat - 'Breathing
in... Breathing out... Breathing in... Breathing out' -
continue until you’ve centred yourself again. Yes, I'm suggesting you
talk to yourself - but only you and I will know.
Because you're taking conscious
control to focus on your 'breath' and using your
‘immediate active memory’ to name what your doing - 'Breathing in...
Breathing out' - Bingo! - No more room in your active
memory for that energy sucker - you've basted him to kingdom-come!