The Dark Deep Shaft of Past
and Future Pain
The old vamps clever ploy is to turn you negative
by getting you to dwell on your fear of the future
or emotional pain of the past. This sends you spinning
down a dark deep shaft.
He's a clever little tyke, because getting
you to remember and dwell on old hurt renews and strengthens
your brain's synaptic pathways to those painful memories
- keeping your old emotional wounds open and festering.
Getting you to focus on a future fear
will fill you with anxiety and drain your energy.
Over time you'll become highly sensitive emotionally,
physically and mentally, which can lead to relationship
and social interaction problems.
Tools to Ward off Possession
So you've learned that the worry vampire's main weapon
is to get you to worry and dwell on past or future
pain. But fortunately there's a gap between the past
and future - do you see it???... that's right - it's
the present moment.
Do you know why this very moment is
called the present?... because it's a gift! The present
moment is your sanctuary from the worry vampire. He
simply can't reach you in the 'here and now'.
So, learning to move more and more into
the moment of now, keeping your mind focused on the
present (the gift), you'll soon be able to give that
old vamp the slip.
Sarah - the Reluctant Vampire
Slayer
When Sarah first contacted me, she was so possessed
by her worry vampire that it wouldn't let her speak
a word to me - not a sausage. Sarah was drowning in
the fears her vamp was creating. She was even suspicious
when I threw her the 'present moment' lifeline. She
said…
"The present moment!
- How can I be in the present moment, I have too much
to worry about! It's reckless just to think of what's
happening now. What about tomorrow? Next week? Next
year???!!!"
Of course it was old worry guts moaning,
not Sarah. But the penny eventually dropped and Sarah
had a deep realisation. She realised that the past
is just memory and the future is only our projected
imagination - right now, the future is just
a thought!
Sarah realised that moment-to-moment
awareness is not reckless abandonment of yesterday
or tomorrow, but a tool that can bring clarity and
awareness to the decisions we make in each moment.
These decisions can either hurt us or heal us.
The present moment is where life is
happening. It's where our personal power lies and
the only place we can effect change to create a brighter
future. It's also the only place the worry vampire
can't bother us.
Lock and Load that Silver Bullet!
You'll never guess what your most powerful weapon
against old worry guts is. In fact, you won't believe
me when I tell you, but it's guaranteed to shoot that
deadbeat in the butt. What is it???... Your breath!
No, I'm not saying you've got bad breath
- I'm saying that by simply bringing your attention
to your breathing will blast that little tyke right
out of your head. You don't believe me do you? Here's
how it works...
Your breathing is always happening in
the here and now - this very moment. Go on, feel your
breath as it comes in and out - easy to focus on right?
Well, because your breathing is always happening in
the present moment, you can use it as an anchor
- to keep your mind in the here and now.
So, simply put - if you're aware of your breath, your
mind's attention is in the present moment - not in
the past, not in the future - but here, right now.
And that's your silver bullet!
The Vamp Bazooka - Your Silver
Bullet Upgrade ;-)
If you just can't shake the pesky blighter - blast
him to dust with the Vamp Bazooka! What's the Vamp
Bazooka?... It's your poor short-term memory - huh?
Let me explain...
You know how you can only do one thing at a time?
- You go to the kitchen for some juice, but notice
the cat's bowl is empty. So you feed the cat, but
can't remember why you went to the kitchen in the
first place - duh!
So, how can poor short-term memory be
a weapon against old misery guts?... The very fact
that you can only concentrate on one thing at a time
causes everything else in your immediate active memory
to get erased. So here's how to use that to your advantage...
When you've got a persistently sticky
vamp, relax your stomach and focus on the gentle rising
and falling motion of your abdomen. In your mind also
repeat - 'Breathing in... Breathing out...
Breathing in... Breathing out' - continue
until you’ve centred yourself again. Yes, I'm
suggesting you talk to yourself - but only you and
I will know.
Because you're taking conscious control
to focus on your 'breath' and using
your ‘immediate active memory’ to name
what your doing - 'Breathing in... Breathing out'
- Bingo! - No more room in your active
memory for that energy sucker - you've basted him
to kingdom-come!
Are
You Possessed by the Worry Vampire?
